More and more is being asked of men as the years go by. You need to have a good job, look good and do as much as women. But, nothing is more important than confidence. It takes confidence to get a good job and confidence to win over a date. There’s nothing more attractive in a man than confidence, but it shouldn’t be mistaken for arrogance. So, when you need to boost your confidence levels, here are seven great tips.
It’s one thing to talk to someone, it’s another to talk to them while making eye contact. If you aren’t sure of yourself, you may find it easier to avoid eye contact when you’re talking to people but there’s nothing to be scared about. They say that the eyes are windows to the soul, but the person you’re talking to won’t literally see into your soul if you make eye contact. Practice makes perfect, so make sure you maintain eye contact during discussions. You’ll start to feel more confident straight away.
Dress the Part
It’s surprising how much confidence your clothes can give you. For example, wearing men’s blazers to work or an event will boost your confidence a lot more than if you were to wear a polo shirt. What you’re wearing has a direct effect on how you feel. So, if there’s an upcoming event where you’ll need a confidence boost, plan your outfit in advance. If you walk into a room feeling good about how you look, everyone will notice.
You may be faced with a situation where you’re talking in a group and all eyes are on you. It can feel a bit daunting to be centre of attention, but if you handle it well, people are naturally drawn towards you. When you have an audience, do your best to speak clearly and don’t rush your words. Nerves can get the better of you, resulting in mumbling and rambling. If you feel like you’re under too much pressure, politely excuse yourself so you can take five minutes to compose your thoughts.
Be a Gentleman
When you’re on a date, it’s important that you act appropriately. Although many women these days would admit to being feminists, they’ll still want you to take the lead on a date. Open doors, pull out chairs and order your meals. The point of this isn’t just to impress. There’s something about the feeling of being in charge that will boost your confidence.
Confidence isn’t something you can buy at a store. You need to take the time to build it up. If you’re making life decisions based on what others want or what others think is best for you, you need to take a step back and re-evaluate. Take a cue from Prince Harry. Confidence often comes when you decide to do something bold.
The same rules apply to grooming as they do to dressing. If you want to be confident when you’re around other people, you need to look the part. Don’t forget to shave for three days in a row and walk into work worrying about standing in front of your colleagues in a meeting. Get up half an hour earlier every day and devote the time to grooming; shaving, styling your hair, brushing your beard.
Just because someone is mean to you, it doesn’t mean you have to behave in the same way towards everyone else. Being kind can help you to develop strong relationships. You’re also likely to get complements from the people you’re kind to, which can be a huge confidence boost. Having said that, the only opinion you need to worry about is your own. If you can look in the mirror and be happy with what you see, you’ve got all the confidence you need.
You’re never going to be the guy sitting next to you. Comparing yourself to other men is dangerous and it only leads to disappointment. You have to be happy in your own skin, so there’s no point wishing you were someone else. Try to use comparison in a good way. It’s okay to like someone’s haircut and ask for it at the barbers, but don’t attempt to turn yourself into something you’re not.
To be truly confident, you need to spend time with good people. Make sure there are people in your life who will build you up, rather than attempt to tear you down. Then all you need is the bravery to put yourself out there.